So why is it that women feel it is wrong to get too excited about porn, swinging or anything out of the normal sexually? It seems to be the general consensus that women are not allowed to get too into sex or is it that women are worried of the reputation they may get! I must be honest the older I get the more I want and enjoy it. Now I am not sure if that is due to hormones changing or just my attitude over sex, porn and having fun sexually but I do know that there are times I want it more now than my partner and that is a huge change. When we were younger he could not get enough and that was alway an issue for us, I was a new mom who kept having kids which meant I was more tired and he was pushed aside more often than not by accident. None of it was intentional but it did happen and now the kids are all growing up I am not quite as exhausted and am definitely in the running for having fun with sex.
I was thinking about porn and how it relates to adults and really it is funny how with the men it is expected that they will be using porn, now more likely on their computer and not hiding magazines in their rooms. However not once have we considered women going online and looking into porn. This is a shame how there is such a difference in attitude for men and women at all ages. Times are changing, but attitudes towards this are slower to move.
The other thing that I find sad is it is not normal to joke about sex or even couples having sex. Our teens know that if the door is closed leave us alone and there are times they are a little horrified that the door is closed, however I was talking to them and they agree that they would rather know in general that we are spending time together and enjoying each other instead of fighting and hating each other like a lot of their friends parents are. There is also a fine line that I do not want to cross in regards to how much the teens need to know. In that though we have friends with similar age late teens and they are quite angry with us if any joke comes out or the girls mention boys they like. Part of this is they want to protect their late teens or are embarrassed with the subject matter and hide it away. Well how long do these late teens need to wait as it is taught in school from 5th grade now and there is no going back from there. I firmly believe that if the teens ask questions then be honest no matter how uncomfortable it is and tell them. Now you can gloss over some aspects as they don't need to know about some heavy stuff, but if you hide or forbid aspects then they will likely go behind your back and search it out it anyway. What would you prefer? So lets remove the stigma and have open communication around these subjects.
I just wish it was even for women and men and there was no stigma on the female sex in being sexual and checking out porn.
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